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Yes, effective emotional expression is an emotional intelligence skill that can be developed.Here’s a request from a letter received from my “Ask The Coach” form today:
“I have recently been reprimanded at work about an emotional outburst during a staff meeting. My boss’s boss told me that she felt disrespected during the meeting and I have been tasked to read a book by Goleman. They say I need to work on my emotional intelligence. I would argue I need to work on my emotional expression. I felt very strongly about an issue and I let me feelings be known. I believe I have emotional intelligence and I need to work on my expression. What do you think?
My answer:“I agree with you, it is possible to learn very effective ways to express all emotion including strong feelings about something that is important to you. Effective emotional expression is dependent on some other aspects of emotional intelligence, especially emotional literacy and emotional self management. Those skills involve gaining insight into your emotions and understanding how they affect your thoughts and actions, even when you don’t know it. And being able to “contain” (rather than just control) a feeling and use it to your advantage without it compelling your behavior and causing you to ineffectively react. It’s a bigger discussion than I can engage here. For now, you might want to listen to my free podcast at www.yesyoucan-podcast.com. I cover subjects like this regularly and will include this subject in one of my upcoming programs. You will also find a free course on that home page that walks you through some basic skills. Beyond that, I have some new audio programs coming in the fall and if you are really interested in taking your game to a much higher level, check out my Whole Leader program at http://www.eqatwork.com.”best to you,Joseph LibertiEQ At Work”
Joseph Liberti, Let Go Of Control With Emotional Intelligence, Jul 2008Note: The final appearance of your post may be different, depending upon your blog’s style sheets.